There are people who will come into your life that will take you hostage. Because they are incapable or unwilling to meet their own needs they use other people to get their needs met.
We all need other people at times. We all need the love and support of family or friends but I'm referring to people who need more than a little aid. They require huge amounts of your times, never giving back to the relationship. They are called "takers". If you are by nature a "giver" you can become a "mark" for these hostage takers.
Recognizing them can be tricky. Usually that are master manipulators that have captivated you before you realize what happened. They could be loved ones, family or close friends, a neighbor or a complete stranger. Getting
involved with them is like allowing a murderer in your door. They will literally kill your way of life, your inner peace and your lifestyle.
The hard part is how to recognize these people before they take over your life. The most obvious sign is when one by one you give up things or values you love in order to accommodate their needs. Believing you are only "helping" you rearrange your life, ignore your needs, to help them reach their goals. Secondly you will notice you give more to the relationship than they do. You will also be giving more to the
relationship then you give time to your own interests. The best indication is when they are happy and you are miserable. If you find yourself in this kind of relationship "Run", don't walk, "AWAY". You are learning the lesson of "letting go".
With deep respect! Namaste'